This is a pretty good guide to getting out of your own way. If you would like to be more honest with yourself and others, try this step. If not, take a moment to think about the things you want to happen with your own mind.
The problem is when we’re not even aware of our own habits, routines, impulses, and reactions, then we no longer control them. Whereas a person with self-awareness is able to exercise a little meta-cognition and say, “Hmm… every time my sister calls me and asks for money, I end up drinking a lot of vodkas.